Dating an extrovert
This enabled the wife to have more one-on-one conversations, instead of feeling compelled to “perform” in front of a larger group. How much to talk after a long day of work: At the end of the day, extroverts often come home longing for conversation, while introverts need to recharge alone.
These differences can leave extroverts feeling abandoned, and introverts feeling pressured.
They agreed to have two dinner parties a month, with the husband doing most of the prep work.
They also decided to go with buffet-style dinners rather than seating guests at a single table.
You are energized by quiet isolation, which helps you to recharge and face a new day. Part of it is learned behavior—your family, the environment you grew up in, and your peers.
But another part of this personality equation is biological.
Do you feel like you can’t quite keep up with your partner’s pace of life? It’s time to let go of those presuppositions and get down to the basics of what an extrovert really is.
Are you an introvert dating or married to an extrovert? One extrovert I interviewed for my book, “QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking,” described her introverted husband as “the anchor of her world.” Extroverts report that introverts give them permission to explore their serious, introspective sides.
Many successful couples are introvert-extrovert pairs. The two types are often drawn to each other out of a sense of mutual delight.
He speeds up, propelled forward by the noise, lights, and swirl of humanity.
I slow down, feeling dazed and overwhelmed by the very same stimuli. Learn more about Cain’s fascinating new book, QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.