She doesn't mean to be difficult, and it would certainly have been better had your parents imparted a Jewish identity that was more than simply the negative idea of refraining from "marrying out." Still, your mother may feel that this is the only control over your dating that she has left.Should you ever wish to discuss this I am available to you.
It's the one line in the sand that Jewish parents do not compromise on, no matter how much or how much or how little Judaism they raise their children with.They are going in opposite directions and neither of them is willing to make room to let the other pass. David liked fresh tomatoes and classical music and my mom. My mom had been widowed for about five years when she met David through a friend of a friend of a rabbi of a friend. He also honked instead of laughing whenever he thought something was funny, so I decided to call him The Honker.One of the Zax says, “ I’ll stay here, not budging! Who stand in the same place presumably for the rest of their lives while a bustling city is built around them. When Mom and The Honker got married in our living room, I wore a dark dress and pouted in all the pictures.--Worried Dear Worried, Firstly, forgive me for my strong opinions on this subject. Simply stated, there is no easy way to introduce your mother to your non-Jewish girlfriend, because doing so will confirm to your mother her failure in instilling within you a desire to make Jewish choices in life, to build a Jewish home, and to raise Jewish children.Even for secular Jewish parents, this remains a high priority.